Every Day Should Be Parent's Day!
What am I Doing Wrong?
Famous words spoken by EVERY parent trying to figure out how to be a better parent and DEFINITELY one we ask ourselves as we homeschool our kids every day (sometimes every hour lol...no but seriously).
ALL THE MOMS...QUICK SELF-ASSESSMENT
TAKE 7 SECONDS AND ANSWER THIS QUESTION
The Majority of our Moms Chose 5...
Having the kids at home 24 hours a day reminds me of how we felt when our son was born. He was so colicky that we didn't sleep for the first 3 years of his life (okay, I slept a bit...but my wife literally didn't).
We started seeing and FEELING our bodies becoming less and less healthy.
In fact, before learning WHY our bodies were doing this and HOW to take care of ourselves, we started seeing some pretty nasty symptoms:
- Hair Loss
- Weight Gain
- Skin Breakouts
- Short Temper
- Brittle Nails
- Low Immune Systems
- Feeling More Anxious and Depressed
It was impacting our marriage, our activities with friends and family and our relationship with our kids! So we did what we thought was best and sought out professional help.
We saw doctors, nutritionists, chiropractors, massage therapists, therapists, dietitians, naturopaths and endocrinologists (hormone doctors). We read books, researched case studies and documentaries changed our diets, increased our activity, and changed our bed-time routines.
We tried everything and, it would work for a bit, but when we would try to wean ourselves off, these same symptoms would show.
If you are in this place, we completely understand how overwhelming and frustrating it can feel when you try a million things, hoping it's the solution, but come up empty handed.
So now, if you feel horrible (sorry about that), take a look at what we found out...
So, after all of this, I (the dad), was able to find a healthier balance in life and was actually doing a bit better, however, I was still really worried about my wife who wasn't improving.
It wasn't until we visited a new Naturopath and Endocrinologist, who helped us understand that a mother's body can have long-lasting changes after child-birth and nursing that not only effect her hormones but also HER BRAIN & BEHAVIOR.
🧬🧪 Get Ready for Some "Mom" Science⚗️👩
When our stress hormones (cortisol and adrenaline) are out of whack things tend to go awry:
- We may try and try and try some more to manage our anxiety, or our high levels of overwhelm and simply find it to be a losing battle over and over again.
- We may wake up in the middle of the night with our minds spinning and lie awake (in a panic) for hours.
- We may notice our high levels of stress are destroying our eating ––we crave sugar, french fries and/or a couple extra glasses of pinot to take the edge off.
- Our thoughts are a hot mess! We may blame ourselves for not being more resilient, strong and grateful.
Proper Levels of Oxytocin have been known to help:
- Increase feelings of calm and security by suppressing the part of the brain called the amygdala that keeps us in a state of fear and on constant guard for danger
- It can lift mood, reduce stress hormones and inflammation
- Increase feelings of trust and safety
- Increase pain and stress tolerance
- Reduce irritability and tension
- Provide feelings of comfort and enjoyment in social situations
So What Helps Bring Oxytocin Levels
BACK TO NORMAL?!
Eating Foods or Taking Supplements to Boost Vitamins like:
- Vitamin B
- Vitamin C
- Vitamin D
Try to do things like:
- Expose your eyes to sunlight in the morning
- Sleep in a totally dark room
- Turn off cellphones, Wi-Fi and other electrical devices in the room while you sleep
- Receive more affectionate Touch - Even if it’s just a hug or shaking hands with someone
- Make more eye-contact with those you love - Staring kindly in the eyes of others is another oxytocin booster
- Listen to Music, Sing, and Make Music
- Socialize with others
- Watch a movie (but not right before bed)
- Do something nice for someone else
Use this chart to see how many ways you can check off each day.
___ 1. Compassion
___ 2. Vitamin D
___ 3. Vitamin C
___ 4. Magnesium
___ 5. Laughter
___ 6. Chamomile
___ 7. Melatonin
___ 8. Touch, Eye Contact
___ 9. Pets
___10. Music and Song
___12. Watch a movie
___13. Do something nice for someone or volunteer